you'll know

I remember towards the end of my marriage when nobody knew about what was going on between those 4 walls, a dear friend reached out for a chat.

He was so in love, but he asked me like I knew, when was the right moment to propose, when you realize that she is the right person. I tried to remember for 3 weeks already the exact advice and the only thing that I remember is that I told him: you feel it. Now, years later I would add that the heart is on your side while the time is against you so the smartest thing to do is to listen to your heart every step of the way.

I had the pleasure in this life to meet couples that started in the '60s, '70s, and 80's, the most common thing I saw in these couples was that it took for them only a few months to realize that they belonged together. Although we can see divorces in these couples also the idea is that the percentage of divorces is insignificant. 

If you dare to feel and think like this nowadays you will, no doubt, be considered a crazy person.

90' s you will still see some equilibrium while if you move closer to our days, the 00s, 10s, and the still young 20s you'll more than sure see a huge difference.

People decided that they have some stages, some levels to reach before they commit. People started to wait for a sign to convince them that it was the right moment. People no longer believe in the notion of building together, they've become selfish, they want to build by themselves and they are looking for somebody who did the same without realizing that the branches of a tree grow together in order to create the tree, they don't grow separate and than they get together so that they make a tree. Allow me to make another parallel in which flowers grow together in a tree while flowers are being picked and put together based on their beauty, they have such a short life in your beautiful vase from home, exercise your mind and ask why.

And in all this standardization of our feelings we are failing miserably being the generations with the highest divorce rate.

You' ll never know somebody as we are all changing everyday and maybe you loved yesterday's version, hated today's one and love tomorrow's one. Play the life game with an open heart.

Yes, love hurts but it also lifts you up. We all have previous bad experiences but stepping carefully in this waters doesn't mean that you will master the game. Every person, every situation, every interaction, every you is different and that's the beauty of it all.

Search intimacy, listen to your heart and make any crazy leap you feel like doing as nothing great was borne from standard.

healthy lovely hate

So many people tried along the centuries to write about love and all of them failed, if you ask me. Love is a feeling that's it's being felt different by any person out there and it's being offered in so many different ways that if you try to understand it you will go crazy and you'll still not be able to make sense of it.

Us humans, we are so miserable when it comes to this wonderful feeling. We watch the movies, we read the books and the poems and still we can't find the power in ourselves to play this game as close as possible to perfection.

We know how to hate, we know how to act like shit, we know how to bleed on people that didn't cut us, we know how to be selfish, and the list about all the bad things we mastered could continue for miles. What about the good ones? Well, if we are being honest, this list would be so short. We know shit in the are of beautiful things.

Some people are so lucky to find other people that love them like crazy no matter what and nobody is talking about reciprocity but at least some fairness wouldn't hurt. If you have somebody in front of you that loves you with all their being, decide fast and respect that feeling, never take advantage of it because you will leave some deep scars on a beautiful soul that will later on bleed on somebody else. They will be there through all your challenges and changes and what will you do with them? Just like a blind person that gains their sight, the first thing they throw away is their walking stick. Don't use people to find your way! 

Ain't life funny when it decides that the sticks will find their way as that's there purpose and nobody will care about the beauty they are loging for. And even if they will find it by that time they will no longer know what to do with it.

Ain't life funny when it decides that the not so long ago blind is to get peace, calm and another stick to serve them in their new journey.

What about the stick that was there when you need it the most and then decided to mock it?

We feel so entitled to do all the shit hiding behind " I need to take care of myself", where the fuck is your empathy? Or at least an ounce of respect, but well hell I guess that the ounce is actually the weight of your soul.

Sad souls lie themselves that they are strong and that they can face them everything that is being thrown at them. Partly yes, but by this point don't throw good at them as they no longer know what to do with it.

Hate to late to little because you didn't master the art of using the other like they used you and like this to be able to walk on head high with a smile towards better times.

Ooooo this lovely hate that makes us one time give to much to whom doesn't values it so that later on we don't have enough to give to somebody who would value it.

It's all just a feeling!