you'll know

I remember towards the end of my marriage when nobody knew about what was going on between those 4 walls, a dear friend reached out for a chat.

He was so in love, but he asked me like I knew, when was the right moment to propose, when you realize that she is the right person. I tried to remember for 3 weeks already the exact advice and the only thing that I remember is that I told him: you feel it. Now, years later I would add that the heart is on your side while the time is against you so the smartest thing to do is to listen to your heart every step of the way.

I had the pleasure in this life to meet couples that started in the '60s, '70s, and 80's, the most common thing I saw in these couples was that it took for them only a few months to realize that they belonged together. Although we can see divorces in these couples also the idea is that the percentage of divorces is insignificant. 

If you dare to feel and think like this nowadays you will, no doubt, be considered a crazy person.

90' s you will still see some equilibrium while if you move closer to our days, the 00s, 10s, and the still young 20s you'll more than sure see a huge difference.

People decided that they have some stages, some levels to reach before they commit. People started to wait for a sign to convince them that it was the right moment. People no longer believe in the notion of building together, they've become selfish, they want to build by themselves and they are looking for somebody who did the same without realizing that the branches of a tree grow together in order to create the tree, they don't grow separate and than they get together so that they make a tree. Allow me to make another parallel in which flowers grow together in a tree while flowers are being picked and put together based on their beauty, they have such a short life in your beautiful vase from home, exercise your mind and ask why.

And in all this standardization of our feelings we are failing miserably being the generations with the highest divorce rate.

You' ll never know somebody as we are all changing everyday and maybe you loved yesterday's version, hated today's one and love tomorrow's one. Play the life game with an open heart.

Yes, love hurts but it also lifts you up. We all have previous bad experiences but stepping carefully in this waters doesn't mean that you will master the game. Every person, every situation, every interaction, every you is different and that's the beauty of it all.

Search intimacy, listen to your heart and make any crazy leap you feel like doing as nothing great was borne from standard.