Actually, it's a bit combined, a bit of everything from this madness that surrounds us. As usual opinions and stories are chaotically blended to try and feed that small hope within. About my hope? It's obvious from everything I write.
There is no secret that many of us are using dating apps. I discovered that the purpose we use it for is different. I looked at it as another way to meet new people and maybe meet my person. It seems that fellow man uses it to find f*** dates and it works and even transforms in relationships sometimes. Me stupid 🤣. On the other side, I talked about the topic before but I learned enough from stories and my own experience to write about how it continues.
Scenario 1: you match, you say hello and that's it
Scenario 2: you match, you say hello and after a couple of weeks she responds by saying that she doesn't use the app too much
Scenario 3: you match, you say hello and after a few days she says she doesn't use the app and gives you the Instagram ID where she doesn't answer.
--- I remember that a few years ago a teacher from the University of Communication and Public Relations was advising the students to create a Tinder profile, match everybody, give them an Instagram ID, and in no time they will become influencers. And me, stupid, I am selling my customers social media strategies and telling them about valuable content🤣. ---
Scenario 4: you match, and you receive the price offer. BONUS: profiles that in one of the pictures already have the price displayed.
Scenario 5: you match, you talk for a couple of days and ask for Instagram ID to see more pictures and ask her out for a date but you get a NO. No, because you are in a hurry and before moving the conversation to Instagram you should get to know each other better. Wtf??? If you meet her in the club, coffee shop, street, or anywhere you talk for a couple of minutes and then exchange Instagram or phone numbers to go on a date and get to know each other. Call me stupid but I really don't get what's the catch here. 😵💫
Scenario 6: or what can be called normality, you match, you chat, you move the conversation to Instagram ID, and.... muahahaha it cannot be that simple but I will continue later on as it's mixing with other scenarios.
Or I am trying to make you read more of my faded ideas. 😬
This part might have had a dedicated part with a title inspired by Dr. Dre, b**** a** men, but actually, it's about boys who are men by age and think of themselves as being men because girls who think of themselves as being women call them men. If it sounds complicated read that again because I am asking what is a man without honor, without respect, without manners?
Recently I attended a party and while waiting in line for a drink I overheard the two guys behind me talking about some girls that they are small and stupid and for sure they will manage to get them drunk and f*** them. I remained in my mind with the question: why would you want to f*** a drunk girl, and how damaged can you be to try and get drunk a girl just to have sex with her. I walked around the party a bit and I saw them next to a girl I knew (too much said, we talked a few times) and although I don't do this I walked right to her to say hi hoping they would go away without creating any drama. I think it worked as they soon left. Later on, somehow, they ended up talking with some girls that were next to me and what caught my attention was the pick-up line "What's up, doll? ", in English doesn't sound that bad but in Romanian, it's really bad. They smiled and off it was the conversation with exchanging names and everything. Me stupid 😂 thinking that being polite is the way while if you are a jerk the doors are opening, sorry I meant to say legs. A while back a buddy was trying to show me pictures and hook me up with his ex, and then with his sister till the point I told him that I would never do that, exes of people I know are off limits, and family it's off like extremely off and I could never do that. Funny was that a girl in the group called me a sucker for this. Maybe she is right, me and my stupid principles and values, I should f*** everything that has a pulse but unfortunately my d*** stayed on the table in school and it's not dumb when it should have stayed beneath so that later in life I can say the local famous line " my d*** doesn't know school”.
In this part of the world (not only in my country) people are full of envy and they have no clue what supporting others means. They limit their kindness only to the people they know but god forbid that those people somehow try to get ahead of them because then the envy really starts. A few years ago I went out to a club and an acquaintance, and after a few glasses and dancing he told me that girl was looking at me. She looked really nice and hence I am not that to be too full of fluff i continued to dance and have fun and from time to time looked her way trying to catch the moment when our eyes could meet. The moment happened later on that night, went to her, chatted a bit and after exchanging phone numbers it remained that we would see each other the next day over a coffee as she was with her friends and me the same. After having one more drink I called it a night as I was really tired. The next day my " friend" called me to tell me how the rest of the night went for him:
Him: Brooooo, why did you leave, it was so much fun?
Me: I was tired bro and it was already 4 o'clock in the morning wtf
Him: Anyways, do you remember the chick you talked with?
Me: Yes
Him: What did you talk with her?
Me: Easy chat, we exchanged numbers and it remained that we would see each other later on today for a coffee.
Him: Yeah, anyway, after you left I saw that she was looking at me so I went to her, we talked, we had some shots then we kissed, she is really awesome dude.
Me stupid, as I thought she was not that type and thought that my "friend" would act the same as me. How? I would have told her that not long ago she talked with a friend of mine and I don't do that. But hey, me stupid. :))
When I tried starting my second business in event planning none of the people I called friends from that time attended any of the parties I was organizing or even a like on Facebook. People here (especially the ones over 28-29) really don't want to see anybody make it in life if it's not them. Years later when our paths crossed again one of them in his stupidity even confessed that they were gathering in the days I was having parties and they were making fun of me while every time I was hoping that they would come also. I continued and it worked just fine but on my work, ambition, and perseverance maybe I will write sometime with the hope that it will motivate somebody to follow their dreams.
Never let shitty people make you forget who you are and all the beautiful dreams that you are made of.
Back to Scenario 6 and how it plays on from that point.
Oh well just to be in line with the fact that the summer Olympics are taking place as I am writing, my conclusion is that our national team should have had at least 1.000.000 members.😬 Everybody here goes to the gym all the time. You have all the gyms full and all the parks almost empty during morning or evening time, most probably a memo about sport in the open air was sent out at a certain point but I didn't get a chance to read it. Actually, I think it's more about the fact that if you go to the park you are poor and if you go to the gym you are somebody. The part with the parks applies to dating also but I am coming back to it later on.
There are girls with which I talked and I tried several times asking them out after work and the reply was: " I cannot after work, I must go to the gym and if you want we can try somewhere around 9-10 PM or on the weekend". Me stupid as I didn't know that you can go dating only on the weekends. It must be said that these girls were all persons stating that they wanted to meet somebody and have a relationship.😂Oh well if you don't make time to meet somebody I think that's impossible. Don't get me wrong, I am totally pro for taking care of your health and body but this is a bit extreme if you ask me.
Then we have the Romanian Sleep Olympic Team, I know it's not a sports discipline but we would for sure win it. Question: Would you like to go to a movie, a coffee, or a theater play after work? Answer: ah after work I need to get home and take a nap as I am so tired from work, wouldn't you want to do this on the weekend?
Recharging category that makes the connection to the next one. Question: Would you like to grab a brunch on Saturday morning? Answer: On Saturdays, I take time to rest and reconnect with myself as I am so tired from work, let's try Sunday and go on a date on Sunday but no later than 8 PM as I need to get ready for the next work week.
Career first and then the rest of life. I was talking back in February, quite a lot with a girl, and after several failed attempts to ask her out, she told me that she likes me a lot but for the moment she is very focused on her career and a certain project and she doesn't have any free time. Afterward, she asked me really nicely if we could schedule a date for the 8th of July as that's her first actual free day for the next months. Just to save you time on calculating, that's 4 months later. I answered politely that this was not the case for me and it was what it was. Guess who reached out to me on the 7th of July evening?
Patience the best is yet to be written and if I am being really honest with how this year is going I could say that the best is yet to happen.
We had Coldplay in Bucharest for 2 days in a row concerts. They invited on stage to sing along with them a local singer. This singer sings manele. The fun begins. This boy is no1 in trending and this was the criteria based on which he was chosen for the joint performance. Most of the Romanians after a couple of glasses start moving their hips on this music manele but nobody admits it. The hypocrisy. On the first day when the kid started singing the entire stadium started booing, just imagine the amount of stupidity. If you can't imagine just think about 60.000 people being idiots at the same time. Immediately that night and the second morning everybody started commenting that this was not appropriate, that the people didn't pay for this shit, and so on, even the people who didn't attend the concert. In front of me, there was a couple with him the classical local corporate employee who earns more than he deserves, and just because he earns a lot he thinks he is smart also, and her average woman who accepts anything from the stupid because he is a provider. They were not the only ones, you know the type, we are not happy, we are not enjoying this but it's a must to be here; I was surrounded by a few exceptions. Anyway, he was visibly drunk already and when the manele moment started he started booing and cursing making his wife visibly embarrassed. At a certain point, she asked him nicely to stop and he just yelled at her "Are you stupid? You made me pay for this shit" and she just let her head down. They left together holding hands because we have a saying in Romania " he is stupid but he is my stupid". On the second day, nobody booed because maybe they were the civilized 60.000, or maybe they were embarrassed by all the shit that happened the night before and they were afraid to be called racists.
A few years ago nobody was admitting that they were listening to this style of music called manele but almost everybody was doing it. For a few years now a lot of people have been looking at the "Love Island" Romania edition but people are ashamed of this and that's how we move to the next topic. 😬
So the idea is simple, most of the female temptations are doing OF and they entitle themselves as content creators or entrepreneurs, while most of the male temptations are fitness instructors and they call themselves entrepreneurs. These temptations are trying to tempt so-called couples into cheating just to prove to them that they are in the wrong relationship. This is damn funny and damn sad at the same time as it describes so well our society. Content creators, fitness, sleep, and so-called psychology experts. Funny note, a part of the couples have the same jobs as the temptations.😂 This season we have a couple formed out of a working man and a woman who doesn't work. Awesome, right? She calls herself the investment and every time her partner makes a mistake she makes a drama but then she says she is sorry as she is so aware that actually he bought her at the cheap partner's fair. And like this, we come back to the main topic.😬
A while back a girl matched with a man on Bumble (I am giving app suggestions also 😂) they talked and talked and they dated and the date went good and afterward they talked again and when he wanted to date again she said that she actually dated him because she wanted a job at his company. And there you have stupid people with LinkedIn profiles instead of going to dating apps, you get a free dinner, a job, way better.😬
As usual, I want to close on a positive note and I really use this to feed my hope. Since the beginning of the year after witnessing some shitty situations, I said that if I want to find a good loyal woman that wants me for who I am as a human being I need to start being a jerk. I listened in this month some more stories about exes from different women and experienced some moments that only strengthened this belief. So if somebody would be able to rewire my manners, brain, values, and heart that way I would be up for it by this point, I think.😬 It's sad to meet girls for which you open the door and say that this is weird for them as it hasn't happened before for them or to tell you that for sure this is a method of conquering them and that I do this only on the first date and when I do it on the third also they are amazed that I continue to do this. Sad really sad. I read a while back a quote that said something like, that every girl falls in love with one or more jackasses in a row that don't behave well and cheat and so on and this becomes their normality. I think this applies to both sexes and the most f***ed up part is when they finally meet somebody who acts right and wants them for who they are and that is so unknown for them that they reject it or they become the jackass.
Not so positive right? Oh well, that's life. A few days ago I caught on video a moment in which a couple and their kid were enjoying a rainy summer evening with the kid jumping in all puddles and laughing so loud that I could hear him from my car. I posted this on Instagram stories as it was filmed through the raindrops on my window and I was violating anybody's intimacy, with the following lines: " You dream of self-discovery, a career, a big house, an expensive car, traveling the world, investments, early retirement and... / I dream of this / a happy kid within a happy family. / We are not the same." I didn't expect this to get too many likes and it didn't. Also, I didn't expect to receive so many comments defending all the material wishes while overlooking the soul wish and this was disappointing, this tells us (or at least me) what is more important for people in our days. It took me a while to pick back up my dreams but after a day I remembered an old saying "Every forest has its thickets" and right away (as a genuine overthinker) I said to myself that this forest seemed to be a huge dry area and the next thing in mind was a picture with a flower growing out of concrete in a middle of a city. If you have a good heart and you walk daily on concrete I promise you that one day you will find your flower. I am sure.
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