We are in a wrong spot in which honesty, loyalty and love have no place in this world and they are replaced by lies and selfish behavior.
I was talking with a friend and he was so confused and he was not able to understand why a woman lied when there was no reason for her to do it. They were talking for a while and she was so sweet and involved and always present and told him she was single and already making plans for their first date and how nice it will be and that she can't wait. Nice? Right? Till one day when she posted on Instagram a picture of her with another man. When asked she replied well he is my boyfriend but I wasn't sure but us we can be friends.
Figure out what you want and date honestly without lies, if you click with somebody you click if no no but at least you're not selling hopes.
People no longer want to say that they are in a relationship. I remember i was talking with a friend and she told me that till you have the talk with someone you are single. What talk? The talk if you are in a relationship or not with someone. Till this talk you can date, kiss, have sex with whoever you want. I laughed as this sounds like total madness for me and a clear fear of commitment. Me in my stupidity always believed that from the first kiss we start investing in to knowing each other and seeing where does the relationship lead, boy I was wrong. People no longer want to say that they are in a relationship as this comes with some responsibility and they are afraid of that responsibility. What an April's fool that happens constantly disregarding the calendar date.
I remember a couple I knew years ago and she caught him while he was chatting with another women and his justification was that it's a must to use your dick as long as you are alive. Yes with the one you love, if you don't love her say so and move on, don't lie don't cheat.
While i was writing this I paused a bit to check on Instagram and the first post that appeared was: " even if a girl is in a relationship, she will always like 2 boys" and it hit me like heeeeey this is my story. I never met a girl that was single allthough they said they are single. Every girl i ever started a relationship (first kiss for me I don't know what for them as for some not even sex was the relationship start) was already in another relationship. Nevertheless none of them really admited to this allthough:
- one was still dating him and all while she was with me for one month already under the reason that she is trying to break up with him but he is suffering and she cannot hurt him like that
- one was still dating him while dating me also as he had a hard time accepting the break up
- one dated the other one day and the next day with me had our first kiss
I have met a dude (cannot call him a man) and he was cheating constantly on her fiance under the pretext that opportunities just appear. If something is missing say so don't deceive, if you don't know what seek professional help. Stop traumatizing a good girl just because you are f up in the head.
A former colleague of mine was complaining that she loves him, he is there for her but he is constantly going out with other girls under the justification that he needs validation. Really, if you don't get it from the one next to you say so or move on, don't be an asshole.
I heard so many time the stories in which a good friend had a crush and tried to hit on on their friends girlfriend/boyfriend. Or after a breakup the friend started a relationship with their ex. Newsflash, you are not friends as you lack any form of respect towards the other and their feelings.
A former friend was constantly saying how good friends are we while he was not missing any chance to disrespect me. Boom no longer friends, lack of respect is enough.
We, as a society, normalized lies by inventing the term "white lies" just to feel better when we hide something. Can you imagine that in UK they conducted a social study and 80 something of the responders said that they've found they current partner while being in another relationship.
Nobody is ok in the head and we all have our demons and it's ok to try but with honesty at least we shouldn't play. Respect doesn't cost a thing.
How can we expect to at least try and build a relationship when we are playing on multiple sides? Why people lie to themselves and in the process to others. Keep your lies for 1st of April!
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