It's ok and to have you time and it's a must in every stage of your life but never say that you are ok alone. The human is a social creature and our place is with others, with a lover in front of us / next to us or with friends, that's when our soul feels with happiness, that's when we live. Be ok you with you alone but never for a long time and never say that you are just perfect like this, never poor concrete in the cracks of your soul as this will make it impossible for others to enter.
At a certain point a friend told me that i don't know how to be alone and happy. I know how to be alone and I know how to find some form of joy, i've been to theater alone, to a few concerts also alone and it's ok but not how it should be as in this mad world i have the courage to admit that somebody's missing, that all experiences are half experiences if you don't have somebody to share them with. As a young boy I worked completely alone abroad without anybody and trust me when i say it broke me but somehow I had the strength to come back and realize what i truly desire in life. So don't tell me about being alone as i can write a book about it.
Society todays yells that you should be ok alone and that you shouldn't let your happiness in others hands. Fake so fake, when you hit play to your favorite song aren't you leaving your emotions in the hands of the singer? when you go to a theater play or watch a movie aren't you leaving your emotions in the hands of the actors? when you read a book aren't you leaving your imagination and emotions in the hands of the writer? when you are having a spa day aren't you leaving your well-being in the hands of the masseuse? and the list could continue forever. The idea is that if i leave you completely alone in the middle of nowhere without anything you'll not be ok, you'll not be happy. I repeat be ok alone but never settle for this and never say that you are happy alone. And if you do find yourself saying this quickly reach out to somebody otherwise you will poor concrete on the outside cracks but inside something will be missed forever and this will bite you when you least expect it.
Choosing to be alone it's not strength it's fear and if somebody is there reach out to them and fight like crazy to help them even if you think you will loose a friend as you are saving a soul. You see, if you love somebody, a partner or a friend you will always wish and do everything in your power to help. As a well known comedian in RO said: love is when you don't matter anymore. Let that sink a bit and think if you want what's best for somebody conditional as long as they are in your life or you just want what's best for somebody perriod.
Society is in a hurry to praise a person that says they are ok alone and says they are working on themselves. They get pronouns as that's a strong person. I think this happens as deep down people don't know how to help and they better praise as their help will not be needed if that person does an extraordinary thing that they can't do. Seek perspective if you ask me. Due to same behavior of no involvement but fearful of losing a friend, when somebody goes through a trauma people say that person is strong and again transforms their suffering in to something to be admired. In my opinion if you are going through a trauma alone or with some help you are equally capable but under no cur none of the two is strong. Strong is a persson that on the other side of trauma she/ he didn't loose themselves. You are strong if you kept those cracks open, while if you poured concrete you are just another person that due to experiences decided to change for the worse.
Wear your heart as a crown!
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