4th lesson, part 1: about how it ends

There a lot more "lessons" coming just to be clear about this and for you not to get confused by the title. Endings are something you should know more about as early as possible as they will fuck you up for a shorter or longer period. Also, the endings, are the ones that will leave scars.

We might think that it's pretty straight forward but actually, it's way more complicated. The first thing we have to say is that there are no happy endings, it just depends on the perspective. 

Movies will mess up your expectations with their happy endings and don't rush to throw stones at them because we as humans we need fairytales in order to make it through the day, in order to feed our hopes. What I am trying to say is that we need to feed our hopes but also have in mind the real end so that when it hits us the scar is not a fatal one.

On some points is easy:

- a movie has a clear duration and you know that after a certain time it will end, funny enough a lot of times you will have the impression that it was to short or that they could have continued it just a bit more. Sequels were born from this as we need more time off everything.

- a song you know it will end after those 3-4 minutes but because you like it you will abuse the replay button

- food ends you buy more

- your phone or any other device has a life period but the ugly part for our mind is that we don't know when it ends and it will always catch us by surprise and we will be left for a while without a phone or without TV or without the washing machine and so on

And the list can continue but I think you catch the point that things end.

Life, 

even if we talk about our own or our dear ones, it will always take us by surprise. Maybe there will be situations in which it will be expected but we will still be taken by surprise. How it ends? dramatic -death. If we die our dear ones will suffer, never doubt this. If somebody dear will die it will put some deep scars on you and you will suffer a while and you will suffer each time you remember them. It's ok to suffer, cry, scream. Never listen to people that tell you to go over it. Be ready for it by trying to live your best life every day as you don't know when it ends. Be ready for it by telling your fear ones that you love them and by talking and spending as much time as possible with them as we never know when it will end, we just know that it ends.

Friendships,

yes, they end also. Maybe because one of you cheated the other trust or used the other. Most often because you evolve differently and you don't have the same life principles and objectives anymore. Don't be sad, I know it hurts and you think that you have your friends for life but people change. Don't give up on your friends but when you choose different moral paths to go away suffer and move on as on your new path you will find better friends. I myself, for example, lost 4 friend circles till the age of 35 and with all of them I was like family but different paths were chosen and talks and advice started to sound more like words of an enemy. I suffered each time and moved on and I learned in some very bad ways this lesson. When I am saying it's ok ok I say it because now my friends are awesome and I love them and I really hope we will remain like this but who knows?

Relationships,

this part is so confusing. Meaningless ones will come and go just like water and you will never think about how and why it ended because you never cared. 

What happens when you love? nothing good, it ends every time and hurts the most. The tricky part is that you don't know when it ends as in when you should stop.

I just realized that a deep dive is needed here and I will continue it tomorrow night.