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 I know, how crazy of me to even think about something like this in the 21st century. Everybody speaks about them but nobody wants them. 

I am thinking for a while now how you can get the fake impression of starting a relationship these days. I plan to write also about the middle and most important about the end.

Back to the topic, fair notice, I will be blunt and this is my opinion based on what I see and hear. So? How do you meet somebody?

Tinder or any other similar app

She creates an account, he creates an account. Choose the right pictures put a shitty description and let the games begin. Swipe left, left, left, left and right, right, right, and MATCH. A lot of fake accounts, meaning girls that make accounts with other girl's pictures, both men and women who don't have at least one picture of them. WTF? be honest about it, at the end of the day, you are just trying to meet somebody. Most of the people will say that they use the app just for finding fuck partners but honestly, they are using it for masturbation because you have higher chances of finding a one night stand at the market than on this app. Coming back to a normal honest match, you say hello and then the man has to have that super mega extra wonderful line that says everything about him otherwise the conversation dies. If he is inspired enough to nail the line than you will have a very long conversation along a few days when by a miracle you move the conversation to another stupid app like Instagram or Facebook. There you continue for a while and maybe and if you have along thins period all the words with you you manage to actually date face to face. We all hide behind our mobile phones being afraid of actually meeting new people. OPINION: it's really not ok to have a fake account with someone else photos, have at least one photo of you, cut the crap with personality - the first thing we are attracted in a person is the looks, try and talk, date face to face - nobody will eat you on the first date. There are exceptions from the above but so rare.

Social Media - here things are interesting and it depends on the person but mainly the style is like this:

MEN: find her on search or tagged in somebody's pictures and from there game on. If the account is private you first hit follow and if you are lucky enough she will follow you back. The men start to like picture after picture to get her attention and when she finally sends a heart also, jackpot. At the same time, he works the story angle where he reacts to almost every story, and when she likes one of his reactions or she reacts to his stories, jackpot. Jackpot = he says hello, she says hello and from that point, they are a few conversations away from real-life date. If she has a bathing suit, lingerie, or almost naked pictures he wants to fuck her and that's all he doesn't want a relationship with her. Don't trust me? ask any men. 

WOMEN: almost the same. Meaning the find him, hit follow and they wait for him to follow back. A huge difference is that they like only one picture and then wait for him to wait a bunch of her pictures. She starts posting a lot of stories with her selfies just draw his attention and his reactions to which she will be in a hurry to respond. He needs to have good pictures in which his financial status to be visible otherwise he gett's unfollowed really fast but he is kept there at followers because well hell, attention is nice even from poor ugly guys.

OPINION: the internet never lies, we all post pictures of a perfect life that doesn't match reality at all if you look carefully you will find pictures of him and his exes or of her and her exes and this means that she/he might still be in a relationship but she/he is looking for a change and automatically you move from the status of a choice to one of an option. Be decent be honest be real if you want to meet somebody ok. If you want only fun than display as a girl how good you look and as naked as possible and what lifestyle you like. As a man display your muscles or the perfect lifestyle that you can offer. Hide the real you and your real desires behind the fake you this is what social media does. Exceptions are so rare and when they take place, take advantage as they last just for a while. Forever is real so therefore scary so therefore rare.

Real-life

Damn, this shit is to rare to take into consideration but let's access old memories and old stories from old people. We are so superficial. Put on your best clothes and girls also your best make-up. Display on the table/bar your phone and car keys and let the game begin. Catch her attention but be careful as if you don't match her social standards your chances are going towards 0 really fast.

OPINION: although it's hard to believe this is more superficial than the rest because guess what even if you manage to catch her attention and have a small conversation, in the end, you will maximum get her Instagram. Yep, people are shit scared of a conversation. And very important go to places you afford because reality will hit sooner or later and the other will discover that you still leave with your parents, or that your parents are paying your rent or that you struggle with your bank payments.

Final conclusion, find whatever floats your boat and try but people, please aim for real connections. Boys stop being impressed by fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake lips, fake boobs; appreciate her looks but try and see further. Stop judging girls by the pictures they post by the designer clothes they wear and so on. Judge them by what they say.

Girls stop being impressed by his car keys, by his clothes. Stop being impressed by his six-pack and huge arms and take a look at his fucking skinny legs, he is skipping leg day every day. Try and look at his manners, the way he acts.

Get rid of the expectations that a girl should be perfect, fall for her imperfections. Treat her with respect. Get rid of the expectations that a man should be nice looking, have a car, a house and be rich. Fall for his potential. 

What do you say about the crazy idea of supporting each other and building together a better tomorrow and stop expecting the better tomorrow to be given to you?

Ladies, ladies please bring back the gentleman idea. Gents, please bring back the lady idea.

P.S. I have the same non-logical ideas in my mind about the relationship and about the relationship end :)