Sad girls who dream of prince charming but don't want to put any effort into it. Are searching for him in all the wrong places with all the wrong criteria in mind. Sad men who pretend to be prince charming trying to land a piece of ass.
You might wonder how I reached these conclusions plus many more? please allow me to share some small real stories.
She had a great heart and she was so sensitive, maybe this was from were her kindness was coming. She was extremely talented at designing her own clothes and sewing them although she was very young. Her parents were not rich and they were struggling with the day to day life but most important they were raising her wright and they were giving her love. Her best friends were either rich or they were in relationships with rich guys. On the love side, he chose with her heart and trust me she could have landed a sponsor to pay for her clothes and trips as she was really beautiful. The guy proved to be a jerk and cheated repeatedly. At only 19 years old she started working while going to school because she simply wanted a better life. One day I think she got tired and wanted to go on the fast lane of life a bit. She decided to get some plastic surgery with all her hard-worked money and went for the silicone, big boobs. When I asked her why she answered sad but happy with her choice: if you have big boobs guys will pay more attention to you and I want to have an easy life like my friend xxx. For a while, this is what she had, this time rich guys who were buying her all sort of stuff and were taking her on different trips around Europe. A few years ago we accidentally met and she told me that she realized what matters in life and that she chose again with her heart but this type a good man with whom she built a home, a family and that they have a beautiful daughter. This is a happy story in which the main character found her way back to what is important somewhere around the age of 26.
He was a man from a modest family but with a lot of work he reached a comfortable place in his life financially. All those years of not having enough and meeting girls that were judging him only by his financial capabilities left their mark on him. He respects women but he constantly cheats them and he no longer wants love or a family. He lies to himself that this is his happiness, today one tomorrow another one because at the end of the day why waste your time with a girl that only wants your money, and he puts this stamp on all beautiful girls. The first half of his life passed already and he cannot find peace and settle down because of all bad past experiences which led him to the place in which he simply doesn't believe anymore that there are girls who could want a man for what he is not what he has.
A girl was so excited about her new boyfriend and when I asked her how was he like she told me the following: well he has a house an expensive car really nice clothes and he looks good and on the first date he brought me 100 roses. Nothing about him as a human or about how he was treating her. Very fast they moved in together and guess what? she was doing everything around the house while he was not helping her but from time to time he was bringing her some expensive gifts. A couple of months passed and they had their first fight because he was talking with other girls. A few weeks more passed and they had their next fight but this time he heated her. The scenario repeated the next day but worse now. She kicked him out and she never went to the police to complain about his violent behavior. A week later she was really happy that she founded out that in fact, the guy was poor and he had a lot of debts around the city. Sad story about choosing people for what they have not for who they are.
He didn't have the happiest childhood, his father died when he was just a kid and his mother struggled to raise him. By the time he got to his teenage years, all his friends had fancy clothes, girlfriends and were going out in the city while he was trying to work just to help his mom. By the time he finished high school, this was already too much for him and he just wanted to enjoy life a bit. He wanted to have nice clothes, he wanted to have a girlfriend he wanted to go to the seaside for the first time in his life and many other things that for his friends were usual stuff. Went the easy route and he started dealing drugs. In just a few months his life changed, started affording nice clothes, to ask a girl out for a drink, not for a walk in the park which none of them wanted ever. He had almost 3 years of good life till one evening when some thugs beat him really bad and left him on the side of the road just one street away from his home. Lucky for him a normal girl that was coming back from work saw him and helped him. A real eye-opener, maybe the beating, maybe the girl, but from that day he stopped dealing and he started a wonderful friendship with that girl. He started working and their friendship turned in to a relationship in which the most beautiful time spent together was their long walks in the park. Years passed and together they've built a family, they have 2 kids now and the last time we talked his voice was pure happiness. A happy story when somebody realizes that easy is not forever but with patience and with the right person by your side you can move mountains.
A girl met a guy and they just clicked and had a very good time together so later on that evening they had sex. Weeks passed and they were talking on the phone from time to time as they were living in different cities. When you were asking her about this guy the only thing she was able to say was that he had a really nice car and that the sex was ok, not even great, oooh and that he sent her flowers one time. One day she decided to visit him, she reached his city and the first evening he just ignored her justifying the next day that he was busy then back to ignore all-day long, later on in the night he called her and told her to come by if she wants. She went there they had sex then he told her to leave as he needs to get up early in the morning. Leaving to her home city she was not bothered by his shitty attitude and disrespectful behavior but by the fact that this time he decided to use a condom. Sad story about choosing the wrong person and paying attention to normality in the wrong way instead of paying attention to wrong behavior.
He fell in love with her and he tried to offer her everything. He was working like crazy and he wasn't coming from a rich family and he didn't catch that lucky break to get rich overnight but he was leaving a decent life. Before him, she was taken monthly on a trip somewhere and she was receiving expensive gifts. He listened to her words that she wants him and he was trying every day more and more to offer her everything that was possible but he was never able to offer her the same level of living she was used with from a man. He hoped that love is enough and that they will build together till one day when she told him that this is not enough for her and that he should have provided more and that's how it ended. Sad story about a man that dreamed about love and a woman who dreamed about excursions and gifts.
She fell in love with him and wanted and waited for years to get married to him. All this time he was already cheating her while she chose to trust him till one day when they stopped. When I asked her what happened there she replied swiftly that all men cheat and it what it is. Now she is looking for her one based on the criteria of what he has not how he is because all men cheat. Sad story about shitty experiences that make a person accept not normal situations as being normal.
He was working hard since he was a kid for all he had while she got from her parents most of her things. He was used to work crazy hours and now he was working even more just to make sure that they have what they need while for her it was hard to understand why is he choosing to work instead of going on a vacation with her. A few months passed and she broke up with him. Sad story about people what we earn and what is being given to us and how this is really a barrier between 2 people.
She was used with attention and lavish escapes and presents. He never afforded to give this to her but still, she fell in love with him. All her friends managed to land an easy life and now she was asking herself if love deserves the daily struggle of life when she can have it easy so she decided to get away. Sad story about how love is never enough when it comes to money. Sad story about how most of the people are influenced by what they see around them and by their friends and they change their life accordingly to the detriment of their soul.
And I know many more stories about girls who choose the easy life and men who offer the easy life not to one but to many. About girls who are really wife material and they choose to build. About men who are faithful and they put their woman above all. About girls who try to land the perfect score but end up unhappy and fill with regrets. About men who paint a rich image so that hey catch a girls attention for a night and maybe they manage to show her there world and she accepts to live a life a not a fairytale.
Today most of the people are sad because they are judging every new person based on their past experiences. So be careful how you treat people because if you treat them bad you fuck them up for the next person in their life. Sad because a lot of people choose to look at what a person has and now he/she is as a human.
Why don't we try to treat every person with respect and kindness because this what we would like to receive also and if it doesn't work between us to politely stop?
When material things started to weight more than personality?
Why do we pay more attention to a car and somebody's clothes instead of their behavior?
Like Black Eyed Peas said: Where is the Love?
It's up to us to stop being sad and making others sad. It's up to us to stop selling ourselves while buying others. At these late hours in the night I dream with my eyes opened that this is possible and that we can be human.
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