congratulations

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉 You, yes you, you made it.

You might now question yourself, what did i do? Well let me get you my 2 cents on it.

You managed to form a society that has no more values, no more aspiration, no more love, no more empathy, no more nothing that was good and pure.

Everybody runs in their race of self discovery but they forget the fact that they are part of a society and would benefit them tremendously if they would also bent their mind and soul in trying to discover the ones around them.

Self love misunderstood in which is risen to the vanity level, selfishness cum lauda. People care only about themselves and they no longer care if their words or actions hurt other people as long as it makes them feel good. There is no place for others emotions as they are considered drama, there is no more empathy for others hurt as it is considered bad for their energy. 

Not a very long time ago I had a bad depression episode. Yes, guess what? Depression is real and I am no longer ashamed to say that I have suffered from it and that I am still battling a serious part of it. Life gave me some serious hits in the beginning of this year and it was so hard for me to find somebody to just listen without judging. Everybody jumped to conclusions and served me with their own interpretation of my situation although i was laying on a silver plate everything that was going on. And yes i understand you have your own shit going on but if we pretend that we are friends at least have the common sense and let me know that you can help me, I would have respected that, instead of hurting me even more. If somebody trusted you at a moment in their life to tell you their biggest sufferings never but never use those against them, pay attention.

Everybody is taking the crown of " I am healed" like it's a race of who heals faster. Like DMX ( 90' rapper) was saying "to live is to suffer", it's clear that all of us been through some serious shit but you must live and try everyday to be better, to admit you have some rotten apples in your basket but it's you basket, don't be ashamed of it. If you really want a shot at love and happiness be ready to be vulnerable as vulnerability means you are strong and it will atract what's meant for you. I really pray for you. Stop running, face it brace for impact and magic will happen.

People are demonizing jealousy, I am talking about a healthy dose that we all have if we truly care about a person, and they will turn it 180 saying that you have trust issues when in fact you have a history, you don't trust the people around them and so on. We want love but a cold distant one without to much emotion involved as that might lead to suffering and it's scary.

If a couple gets in a fight people will jump to conclusions about who did what instead of asking a simple how do you feel about it, zero empathy, i want to help but in my terms. No, empathy is when you have the capacity to help in the suffering one needs and desires not yours, it's not about you.

Don't you dare saying to somebody how they made you feel as they will make it about them and take it as an offense when they could just have an aha moment and say i am sorry in fact this is what I ment or i am sorry but this is how i think, or I am sorry i didn't realize.

If as a man you know what you want and you meet a woman and she tells you from the first night I wanna fuck you but you refuse as you want a relationship a family, immediately you will be labeled stupid even by other women. Excuse me for not wanting fun but wanting to feel a connection and to build something. The same applies the other way around.

If you want to talk about the future and make plans for the future you are either in a hurry or you don't live in the moment. Yolo in your 20's is cool as in your 30's and above is sad.

If you want to share about your past and what triggers you, oh well you guessed, you live in the past you are not over something and you don't live in the moment. Tell me your traumas as i want to be your support not a step dancer on your past traumas, I'll tell you mine as i would like you to do the same. Avoiding this talks will just make 2 people involuntarily hurt each other and distance when they could have had the best story ever. There is a risk in doing this but let's start a relationship from the assumption that we have chosen the person in front of us and they will try not to hurt us.

Cheating is not cool. You cannot love 2 partners at the same time. Animals have animal instincts as us humans have something called emotional connection. If you want fantastic sex, search for the emotional connection not casual. Cheating has become so widely accepted that each person has it's own definition of it. From my perspective is so simple, if we kissed we are together till further notice and i will not entertain another person. If we had a fight I will not entertain another person till we talk. Simple. You are somewhere because you want to be, not because you need to be. When Ross said to Rachel ( characters from Friends) " we were o break" it was a joke, if you still feel something for the other person don't go around as like this you consume the energy that you could use in fixing your relationship. I get it the options are so many in our days, but connections are rare and once you found them you must nurture them not betray them as, guess what, you’ll in fact betray yourself.

People want just happiness and smiles, but people!!! life in 2 has sorrow moments also, they are the ones that create an indestructible bond not your smiles around a wine bottle. You want real it comes with good and bad, you want superficial you are lying to yourself and run from past traumas.

We throw I love you like lights in the dashboard of a bmw, this phrase has so much meaning it and we should use it only when we are ready to have a form of commitment. 

Work and fight people, stop running from a basket to another, they all have thier rotten apples.

Self confidence it's good, narcissistic traits are bad. Just because a lot of people want you it doesn't mean that they will appreciate you or that you are more valuable then others. Stay humble and let others praise you if it's the case. Being humble will allow people to get close, will allow people to praise you but if you are to busy praising yourself there will be no place for others to do it.

Recently I had my first yoga session ever and it was absolutely eye opening but more enlightening was the discussion with the guide at the end. I thanked him for the experience and we exchanged a few sentences after which he told me that he is surprised of the discoveries i've made on my own, he congratulated me saying that he needed years to realize some stuff through meditation that i have realized i don't know how 😬 but afterwards he continued that i should stay humble as it's a neverending road and only by letting my ego aside, loving and respecting others i will be able to go deeper and deeper. 

Stop yelling i am ok alone as this sounds i am not ok. We are social animals and we need others but most important we need a warm soul to kiss in the morning, call in the afternoon, hug in the evening and connect along our lives. Yes we can do everything on our own but along the road why do you live everything and gather so many experiences if you don't have somebody to share them with.

So yes congratulations dear society as you manged to cure yourself from love. The irony, we are smarter, more enlightened but more distant from the others.